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Learning of 2025 – Part 4 Good days and bad days—many of us go through this phase. But I believe there are only good days and learning days, days that help us grow. There are moments when everything works in your favour. You receive work effortlessly, your projects get approved, and people around you value your voice. You feel content, live happily, and carry a positive mindset with uplifting vibes. However, it is often said that days never remain the same. When circumstances shift and things stop working in your favour, your work gets rejected, opportunities dry up, or you may even find yourself unemployed. Your emotional state changes. A sense of heaviness takes over. You feel disturbed, irritable, and anger slowly becomes your constant companion. Negative thoughts begin to dominate, leaving you feeling low and discouraged. How do you deal with such a phase? To explain this, let me share a short story. A man approaches God, knocks on his door, and explains that he is constructing a ...

Learning of 2025 - Part 3 My question to you all is simple yet powerful: How much do you think? How much do you forget? How much do you keep intact? And finally, how much do you express? I am someone who expresses every single emotion to my loved ones. But here’s the challenge - I often find it difficult to read the emotions of people who don’t express at all. I understand that everyone is different, and for some, expressing feelings is truly a task. Yet, for people like me, it’s equally challenging to face silence or no response in return. Being expressive has its own challenges. At times, it may come across to others as exaggeration, or even feel repetitive to the point where its sincerity is questioned. There are moments when constant expression is taken for granted because the pattern suggests that forgiveness and understanding will always be there. Yet, what often goes unnoticed is that this very expressiveness whether in affectionate words, thoughtful gestures, or even occasional...

Learning of 2025 - Part 2 An extremely impactful quote - 'The moment you take responsibility in your life, is the moment you can change anything in your life.' My question here to everyone is, why do we always fear our own responsibility? Why do we run away? Why do we not just be friends with responsibility? Firstly, let's keep a pet name for responsibility. Let it be called duty. So, now, as a ordinary person/woman, what is our duty? From childhood, if we consider, studying well, being a good person, scoring well, standing up wisely and growing up a career, build a family and taking care of them and, yes, more importantly, loving yourself. In short, this is the basic life cycle. Where does the problem arise? It arises when things don't work according to our will. According to what we had thought of. Life does not work according to our plans. You were waiting to get promoted, but unfortunately, you did not. And so, you feel your work is a burden now. Suddenly, you feel ...

Learning of 2025 - Part 1 'Time is precious.' We learned this when we were kids. But what about timing? Timing, oh! That's important. You cannot play with it; if done so, things can be ruined. Let me ask a few questions. If a kid is hungry today, when will you feed him? Today right now or tomorrow? If a person has just had an accident, when will he be treated? Today or later? If to reach a destination on time, you have only one train, what will you do? Take that train anyhow or miss it? Here, you all have the right answers. You will feed the child as soon as possible, the person will be treated immediately, and the train will be boarded on time. Now, let us look into some amazing situations. If your friend needs your guidance over a difficult situation, when will you meet and discuss it with him? When he needs it or when you have time? If your sibling wants to vent over some frustration that is bothering him, when will you be available? When you free, or just immediately? I...

When it was last, you sat alone, thinking about none of your responsibilities. When was the last time you sat, relaxed, closed your eyes, and concentrated on yourself? Oh! You don't remember. Well, that's because it was not somewhere in the near past. The most forgotten task, and the last priority of many, is 'SELF'. And far away is 'SELF LOVE' The tree will grow and give fruit, but it needs time to go through the process. If the atmosphere is suitable, it has sufficient water and fertilizers, it will surely give good fruits. Similarly, a person can function, carry on the responsibilities, do the daily chores, spread love, and work efficiently only when one is refilled. Now, humans need to detox as well. If not, the human is surely going to lose its character, which will lead to failure. Hence, self-love should be mandatory. From the daily schedule, one must take out some time to rebuild oneself. Meditating and going deep down to understand the real self. One sh...

The most beautiful month. The one that is awaited all through the year. Indeed, it's Valentine's Day. A day where you can express yourself, especially for people who don't really communicate all through the year. This is the day. The most complicated yet amazing feeling is to be in love. But wait, nowadays, love is not alone. It comes along with ifs and buts. It comes along with a disclaimer! How will you know if the person you love is the one? How will you know if what you feel for them makes them feel the same for you? How will you know if the person is true to their words and actions? How will you know it is not a trap? How will you know your priority in their life? How will you know if they have any selfish mottos behind them? How will you know if it is love and not just lust? I don't think anyone has an answer to these questions.  When we are in love, we only think with our brains aside. We think emotionally. We think all is well. We never look at the negative side...

If you look at the dictionary meaning of  Dreams , 'It means a series of thoughts, images, and sensations occurring in a person's mind during sleep.' But according to me, Dreams are  a series of thoughts, images, and sensations to which you look with eyes wide open, in all your senses, and with the only aim of making them true. When you truly desire something, you dream of it. When you dream of it, part of your mind believes it to be true. Once you start having a feeling of contentment, your mind finds a way to your Dream.  A Dream need not be something huge. It can also be small, tiny things. You can Dream of an A+ in your tests. You can Dream of an adventurous vacation. You can Dream of a car. You can Dream of a healthy life. You can Dream of weight loss. You can Dream of a successful meeting. You can Dream of a new house. You can Dream of self-importance. You can Dream of a salary hike. You can Dream of a lovely marriage. You can Dream of a cute little kid. You can Dre...

I have heard a lot of times from different people that they can't wake up in the morning. It is difficult for them to go to sleep early, so mornings are an issue. There is something going on in their minds that does not let them sleep, so mornings are difficult. There are a number of tabs open at the same point. Shutting down one doesn't help. Why? Can we solve this? Also, there are people who wake up in the mornings at a fixed time, but only because of their responsibilities and their daily routine. Not because they want to. Where do you get this love for mornings? Yes, we can get it. I have been in this same scenario for a very long time. I tried many ways, but all in vain. One fine day, I found a solution. Something changed my life, and I was awestruck. Let me share the idea with you all. I will be glad if it works for you all as well. Mornings are a signal from God that today is yours. You are alive. You have one more chance to conquer, to aim, to feel, to love, and to live...

In times of our busy schedule, we keep looking for things like good food, a good place to hang out, a good job etc. But what is more important to find, is  A Shade . A place to relax, a place to burry yourself, a place where you can get angry, a place to be immensely happy, a place where you can show your regret, a place where you celebrate profusely, a place where you cry, a place where you express, a place where you are you. A place where you can be your own self. A place where you need not put up your mask. A place called your comfort -  'A Shade'. Shade is not a place. It is that person in your life, who is a good listener. A good motivator. An inspiration. Your gist. Your doctor, your counselor. Your entertainer. Your push. You pull. Your teddy bear. Your smile. You sunshine. Your moonlight. Your happy pill. Your bitter gourd. Your delusion alarm. Your reason to wake up another day. In short - 'Your Jaddu Ki Jappi' You may find your shade, your shelter, your cover...

'Friends' , the most beautiful yet intricate relationship to understand and maintain What is the role of a friend in your life? What is your role? Are you a good friend? My questions are going to confuse you. Let's solve your confusion. Happy Friendships Day wishes are viral  all around. I am sure everyone today is very excited and happy. You all must have special plans for lunch or dinner with your friends. All the restaurants are going to make a huge profit today. All of social media is overflowing with messages, status updates, and stories. Gifts and bouquets, chocolates and cake, special surprises, and whatnot. Wow! What a celebration! Is this all worth it? Yes, it surely is. This is a day to express our emotions with our friends and celebrate the bond in infinitely different ways. I believe this celebration is a must, but only if you are eligible for it. Apart from the celebrations and parties, are you genuinely available for your friend in need? Are you there when yo...

All of us I believe have a soft corner for Artists. Today I am not talking about any dancer or painter or a musician or a cook. But someone, who is a mixture of all such Artists. Someone who learn many many arts throughout their life in creating beautiful souls.  The most beautiful and selfless role playing Artists.  To me, they are ' PARENTS' .  We have heard a lot about what they do. How they make a difference. Their greatness. But, what about the difficulties they face? What about the confusions they have? What about their failures at times? What about the overwhelmed emotions with which they burst out? What about the ever growing generation gap they deal with?  For all my dear Artists, here are a few key points to have a better, happy and a smooth ride. Implement these in your life, and get perfectly poised. No guys, these are not from me. I just got inspired by a Guru and here is what he has to say with some of my thoughts as an extra masala. 1. Personal Attenti...

Did you guys actually thought that I stopped writing? Oh! No No, that's not happening for sure. So here I am, with something interesting.  Writing after months, but today my mind is speeding to the high point. So much to write, so much to tell, so much to convey. And more importantly, to connect back with my loved ones. I know everyone of us at some point in life, could not do their own wished things. Came in a situation where you would have taken a break from your loved activities. Your responsibilities drove you away from your hobbies. You smiled at it and said a good bye. Now is the time, to say 'Hi' once again. It is never late to start again. How can you forget your passion? How can you forget how happy you were doing those small little things for your soul? 'Rewind' Think of those likings which brought a smile to your face. Pick up the paint brush, and put your emotions on the canvas. Grab your favourite book and just get completely involved in those magical w...

What does a new year mean to you ? A change in the year ? Or a reason to party ? Or maybe a day to take resolutions ? I am very sure we all take resolutions every year on Jan 1. My question here is, till when does it last ? With all enthusiasm, we make our resolutions. But does that enthusiasm remain the same till we complete our tasks ? In general cases, the answer is NO.  A  resolution is a promise which we should give to ourselves. A goal to be achieved. So lets see how to go about it. Take down a paper and a pen, please note, not on your laptop or any digital media. Take a week's time. Think of what is really required for your growth, for your betterment in terms of career, health, socials etc. Note down everything. My personal advice here is, do not read others resolution till you are not done with yours. Do not get carried away with others thoughts. Other people can't decide what is the line of action for you. Go through your list. Discard if not required. Add ...

Health is Wealth. A well-known saying we all have heard and at some point we do believe it.  When it comes to being healthy we focus on eating proper nutritious food, avoiding junk food, including yoga and  exercise or walk in your daily routine, maintaining a appropriate sleep cycle etc. But.... What about 'MENTAL HEALTH'. Why do people never talk about it ? Why is it difficult for a mentally ill person to seek help ? Why is not as normal as just having fever ? Why do one have to  struggle in silence ? It is uncanny how the society reacts on Mental Health Issues. I feel everyone has once in a while come across situations which bother them, make them mentally weak. A few words hurt brutally and tear apart their heart. It keeps rotating in their mind. Body shamming can snatch away ones confidence. Lower grades can question their own talent. Long fights in family can ruin a child's thinking and growth. To envy others luxury can lead to dissatisfaction. A breakup can keep a ...

Let me start this blog with some praiseworthy incidences I am looking around.  In this span of three months of lock down where life has turned upside down there are s ome events around which made me feel that people around me are good. They have a heart. A heart that feels, A heart that melts, A heart that cares. A neighbor of mine cooks a little extra food daily for a poor lady sitting down a over bridge which is actually her place to stay. She feeds her twice daily. One of friend called up all the friends just to chit chat and assured all possible help if at all we are in some unavoidable situations. Another friend who owns 2 shops did not take the rent for 3 months and also gave time liberation to pay the rent for next months. One of my relative paid the medicine expense of his office boy who was suffering from COVID and helped him come out of this insane period. Now on the other hand I do see many other well off people who have been an opposite example. I have seen t...

The most common topic spoken about since yesterday. Depression, Suicide, Mental Health. It gives me a shivering when I hear such news. We have suggestions all around. What do we know about it ? Is it just that we talk about it or do we even implement it at times.  I think many us must have gone through depression. But not all will accept it. Many of us don't even know about it. Why ? Is the awareness less ? Or is it that we are shy to accept it ? Why can't going to a psychiatrist just be as simple as going to a physician Dr. ? Why don't we look at the positive sides instead of focusing on the negative ? Why don't we talk to our friends ? So the first side of the coin is the Depressed person. I don't need to focus on that, as everyone has list of to-do things for them. Talk to your friends and family. Go to Dr. Aim. Develop hobbies and many many many more. So for everyone who feels its very easy to come out of depression, let me tell you all, Its Not. The pe...

I guess the best time to write a blog, as everyone is free. Oh, the ladies are going to throw a dish on me. I am sorry I know you girls are not free as you have so much to do.  There was a time when people used to always complaint, 'We do not have Time'. So here is your time. You need to use it wisely. When was the last time you sat with your spouse, kids, parents, siblings ? Talked, Discussed, Planned. Do that. Talk about the good things, talk about the difficulties, plan the remaining year. Talk about the good part you love about each other and even listen to complaints.  The best part is, you do not have an escape. The perfect recipe to a perfect Relationship is to Talk, Listen & Understand Listen to your parents stories, real life stories. Listen about your grandparents and great grandparents. Record it. Preserve it for your kids. You don't know how lucky you are if your Family is your inspiration, your motivation.  Do take part in...

The last 2 days left for 2019 to get over. We will be entering a New Year, in fact a New Decade. It is said that you should always look forward. But today lets peep backwards and lets recap the whole year. So what is it that you can see. How was the whole year ? A very nice one or a Bad one or maybe a mixed one. I feel everyone has already decided their Resolution of the Year. But did you even give a thought about your incomplete tasks of the last year ? No... Why ? So now is the time to think about it. What are such things ? No I am talking about your work. I am talking about emotions, I am talking about relations, I am talking about connections.  Is there something which is bothering you ? Did you hurt someone and then realised that it was your mistake ? Did you had fights with someone where you were not at fault but still those fights disturbed you ? You wanted to speak out your heart to someone, but you could not gather the courage. You feel bad about somethi...

Have you ever felt something in your throat, feeling like as if you just got choked up. With a lot difficulty you are gulping down something. Oh ! I am not talking about food or water. Do you feel choked when you really want to say something but you don't or I should say you can't. You all have that one picture in mind right now about when you wanted to speak up but you did not. My only question to you is Why ? Thinking about the after effects which may hurt someone or say ruin a situation ? What about the hurricane which passed through you and destroyed your mind and your heart. Was it worth keeping quiet ? Think about it. Yes I agree that at times it is better to keep silence rather than speaking up. But many a times it is better to talk your heart out. A child does not tell his parents about his fight at school. A small little girl is afraid to tell her elders about a guy who is following her everyday. A student feels insulted about telling his teacher in front of the...

The dictionary meaning of Expectation is A strong belief that something will happen. Also, I would like to mention a couple of famous sayings. 'Sometimes we create our own heartbreaks through expectations'. 'Don't blame people for disappointing you, blame yourself for expecting too much'. And apart from the meaning and the saying, there are some people, actually almost everyone who advice very strongly 'Don't expect'. But I don't completely agree with it. A small kid who cannot even speak, looks at his mother expecting that his mom would feed him. A kid who has just started walking expects his father to hold him if he falls. So here the expectation is nothing else but the Trust which is been in built in humans by God himself. Further growing up, expectations take different shape. A naughty brother who was been scolded in the school expects his elder sister to not go home and complain. A younger sister expects her elder brother to save her from...